Single ladies

Girls, ladies, beautiful and precious ones! I just want to tell you today, you are not alone! Over the years I've been confronted with all these questions: WHY (are you still single) ?, WHEN (are you going to get married) ? and WHAT (is wrong with you) ??? Some even tried to "solve my problem". So after few tragicomical dates and set-ups I eventually realised, that people will not stop asking these questions, so I'd better come up with some good and honest answers.

First, let me say, that I do believe that marriage is good and from God, there is a tremendous power when man and woman come together in unity! But we tend to forget, that we live in a fallen world. The union God intented for marriage was brutally violated by human race. Egocentrism, manipulation and violence replaced surrender, honour, gentleness. Some time ago the Lord told me: ,,Let's talk about man - woman relationship." My first reaction was: ,,Lord, now even You? Can we please change the subject?" Frankly, I was sick of this theme, I have witnessed so much heartbreak in marriages, and still the whole world seemed to try to convince me a compromise is needed.. The Lord continued: ,,Instead of fighting together, you are fighting each other." And I knew both sides played their parts. 

Because God put something in men we do not have and something in us that they do not have. Physically, mentally and spiritually. But instead of cherishing what we have, we became jealous and envy of that what we do not have. And the fight started. I know that we, men and women as individuals, as families, as societies need to be healed back to our original identity. The problem is much deeper than my singleness. Much deeper than I can comprehend at the moment. So I do believe compromise is not an answer to this. At the end, this is not about me, it's about Him.

So now, I usually tell people, that I am a happy single, which is true and it also indicates that they do not have to save me. I even have fun answering those Armageddon questions like: ,,What if you will never get married?" I try to look as serious as possible and answer: ,,That day the earth will start spinning in other direction!" Seriously! What would happen on a large scale? Is that really the worst-case scenario? For me, the question is: ,,Will I let this stop me from being used by Him? Am I praying for breakthrough for others and deeper revelation in this area? Will this hinder me from becoming a woman He created me to be?"

,,Lord, we come to Your throne with praise on our lips. You always know what you are doing, You deal with each woman so beautifully. Lord, I ask for more understanding, patience and courage to change our thinking and behaviour. Please teach us how can we come and fight together. For Your glory. Amen."